Relearning Day to Day Living after a TBI

1. How to function in your Day to Day life living and working in your new ‘reality’ at this time and how to move forward as you heal. 

2.  Understanding why systems and organization in your environment will assist you in doing what you need to do and enjoy what you want to do, all the while preserving your energy to heal and move forward. 

3.  Work with your professional team and your support around you to assist you in simplifying your life. 

June 13, 2012 – I was hit by a van on my bicycle, he turned into me, I was thrown onto the van and thrown back and hit the pavement.   God was with me and sent angels. In seconds there was a volunteer firefighter who yelled “don’t move” and seconds later a nurse stopped.   After an ambulance ride to Exeter Hospital, many tests and x-rays I was on my way home to my bed to recover. 

Following a brain injury one of the most difficult hurdles is teaching friends and  family how your life is changed. Most people can relate and understand the limitations when you receive a physical injury, for example, a broken leg.  With that physical injury, your will experience some short term inconveniences.  Day to day tasks will take longer to reach and slower to accomplish. This seemly minor inconvenience will lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration.  When the cast is removed you are taught exercises to get your strength back and told to walk on it as much as you can.  While at the end of the day you might be tired and sore — Can you sit and read a book, get caught up on paperwork or have a visit with your family? — Of course you can.   Now think about having a TBI, you have started to heal and do a bit more but it is midday and you are mentally exhausted so you are also physically exhausted.  Your eyes and head hurt and you can not think, your brain has literally shut off. —but to the average person you look fine  —- to those that know you well they can see the eyes tiring, the slowness in responding and the overall fatigue  — What can you do?   REST — close your eyes – sleep.  

Are you ready today if something was to take you out of your normal today? 

When someone has a TBI, understanding and accepting the new reality today is so important.  Knowing this may not be your new ‘normal’ but it is today’s new normal.  Understanding that simplifications, systems and having organization to assist you and your people around you will conserve the energy you need to heal.   And finally knowing that your team of physical and mental health providers around you are your team members.

Get help to get systems in place are so important.


WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO THINK SOME DAYS!

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April is a fantastic month.  My amazing daughter was born on the 23rd.  My wonderful sister was born on the 17th.  My parents were married on the 20th.  As well as, my mother-in-law and many great friends were born in this month.  April is a month of new birth and growth.

What are you going to plant?  What are you going to weed out so new growth can come in? What are you going to eliminate so you can be more at peace and relaxed?

April is always a great time to help your children go through their toys, books, clothes and other belongings.  Decide what they did not use, wear or need for the past winter months.   Help them see that when they purge their surroundings it is easier for them to find the toy or book they want.  It is also a great thing to give to others who do not have as much as you.  Help them take the belongings to the women’s shelter, the Salvaltion Army, or charity of your choice.  No matter what the age everyone can use a little help with this and it gives you an opportunity to spend time with them and catch up.

People talk about “Living with Less”, “Get rid of Clutter”, “Downsize” etc. Let’s put a positive spin on this – Let’s “Live Real!”  Live your life with you, your family, your friends, enjoy the people around you. Stuff just gives us things to clean up, to put away, to spend money on and to store.  People give us life experiences. 

Take a honest look around your home.  Look at everything in your home and think of what value it has to you, what it reminds you of and what emotion it creates for you.  If it is a negative response, remove it so someone else can enjoy. 

Now it is time to enjoy Spring!!

Spring is coming, and so is patio weather.   This is the time to get all your closets, storage areas, kitchen and bathrooms purged and organized so you can head to the patio in the nice weather. 

Often this time of year we talk about going through your closets, but this year I am going to talk about the kitchen.  I find it is one room that gets neglected, but is normally the most used room. 

Do you live in fear of something falling on your head

 when you open your cupboards?

 Do you find yourself having to take out half the shelf and stuffing everything back in every single time you need something?

When was the last time you pulled everything out of your kitchen cupboards to see what you a really have?

 YES, I said EVERYTHING!

  1. Pull out all your dry goods. Those that are expired, throw out; those you will never use; take to the food bank.  Spices have different shelf life, if unsure, pale in colour or poor aroma likely means old and should be discarded.
  2. Pull out all your cooking utensils, graters, knives etc, group them according to wood spoons, spatulas, knives etc.   Those items you don’t use, or don’t like to use, move them on to someone that will. 
  3. Small appliances – broken, get rid of – never use, move on to donation – those seldom used, but enjoy using, store in cupboard that is difficult to use – the rest need to all go together in the same cupboard for easy access.  FYI counter tops are for preparing food, not storing items. 
  4. Lastly, cookware.  It baffles me why someone would need 6 or 7 frying pans, but I always get a good story as to why they need them.  I have a small and a large.  I have one set of pots, not 2 or 3.  
  5. Small storage bins, drawer organizer, grip liner for drawers, glass or Tupperware to store dry goods – all great things to help you organize your kitchen.   When a cupboard is wasting space – add another shelf. 

Ahhh! February!

We made it through January, the days seem to be getting a little longer and we want to believe spring may be just a little bit closer.  

February also brings us Valentine’s Day. Have you ever heard the term Happy Spouse, Happy House?  Why spend money on flowers, chocolates, stuffed animals or expensive jewellery, if none of that is what either of you really want or need?

Organizing is not just about cleaning up what you have, but it is also learning to keep out what you do not need.  It is about being a smart consumer and filling you space with less stress.  So, before you buy into the hype of what consumerism wants you to believe Valentine’s Day is about, STOP, and be honest with yourself and your partner (if applicable) and family.  Maybe this Valentine’s Day you think outside the box (of chocolates) and get something/do something that is really for you and your family.  So, how can Professional Organizing help you find this truly meaningful gift?  By offering the best gift of all, the gift of organization.

Instead of bringing more into the home, or spending money on an expensive dinner and possibly a babysitter, spend the money on making your home, you, and your family happy.  Reduce the stress that too much stuff or lack of organization can create. Let us teach you, your significant other (and even the kids) how to get organized and stay organized.  Do something together, or for each other that will last longer than one day.  Make Valentine’s Day about loving your home, your space, and your time. 

Trust me, the high you get from the gift of organization is almost as timeless as diamonds! 

2019 Has Begun

2019 has begun, January has passed!

January is a month of change, the weather changes from one day to the next, our new clubs and  exercise classes change, as a business owner this is when I think of things to change and improve in my business and the list goes on.

So if there is something you want to change and the time is right, do it!!

I am sure you have been hearing a lot about dieting, exercise, organizing and many other things to get your new year started.  If the time is right, great. If not, don’t feel you need to do it because the media is telling you too.

I am also sure you have or someone near to you has heard about the new KonMari method of Organizing.   This method has been introduced by a Japanese organizer.  She has a few books out on organizing, as well as a NetFlix show.  Marie Kondo has a unique way of organizing that I am sure will work for some people, she has unique tips and tricks to get organized and she has a peaceful way of doing it.  As a Certified Professional Organizer I always welcome new ideas, new organizers and most of all the publicity that the profession gets when someone like Marie Kondo hits the airwaves and social media.

For those of you who are new to getting organized please know there is more than one method to get organized.  It takes time, patience and support for most people.  When you are ready to get orgainzed know the team at Just In Time Solutions will be there for you, and will not leave your side until the job is done.

Wanting to get organized, check out our contest this week with the Mom and Caregiver Magazine on Facebook –

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Till next time ….. “Don’t set it Down, Put it Away!”

We got an email from an old friend last week.

“We moved and I can’t take it anymore. We have too much S*%! and I want it all GONE!”

So being the incredible business that we are, we squeezed our friend Mrs.P into a week that was already busting at the seams. But we understand when someone emails or calls us and they are in that much of a state, we HAVE it help and quickly.

There’s just no sense at all to have a friend feeling overwhelmed for weeks on end when we can come in and get it under control in a day or two.

Our response was ” We’re on our way!”

So, now because this was a desperate plea for help we moved fast and booked her into a tight time slot. And then  moved onto helping the clients we had booked in prior to Mrs.P.

FYI – Mrs.P lives about 1.5 hrs away in the lovely rolling hills of Southwestern Ontario.

The adventure begins: Erin and Rebecca rub the sleep from their eyes and roll out of bed extra early in order to get to Mrs. P in good time. Rebecca jumps behind the wheel and they’re off! Heading north ( that’s all Rebecca needed to know, as Erin is the navigator).

As they are travelling NORTH, Erin starts to check into the very organized calendar of Just In Time Solutions and is having a hard time finding the “NEW” address of Mrs.P.

You see Just In Time Solutions had gone “paperless” since seeing Mrs.P the last time. So, Rebecca and Erin had an idea of where Mrs. P’s new house was but no real address. They had contact information…. however, Mrs.P has three small children and as every Mother knows

Do Not Bother me before 9 am! Do Not Pick up that phone because you will go down that rabbit hole and your morning routine will go out the window!-

So, being the organized and structured Mom that she is, Mrs. P was not answering calls or checking emails. ( to which Erin was trying desperately to get a NEW address)

Rebecca takes the bull by the horns and arrives at a small village that she believed would head them in the right direction and if nothing else could be used as a bathroom break!

Without fear or hesitation Rebecca abandons Erin in the van and heads into a quaint little general store. Asking the clerk behind the counter if he knew where Mrs.P lived.

His answer ” No, better check the post office.”

And then it happened….A bulk of a figure beside Rebecca turns around, pushes his glasses up onto his nose and points a well worn finger at Rebecca saying

” I know a Mrs.P! She lives on my road!”

Rebecca responds ” That’s her!”

With amateur artist ability but decades of local knowledge our new friend took a pen and paper and drew a map to Mrs. P’s NEW home. Now, you might ask why not just put the road name in the GPS? Well our new friend had lived here all his life and said “they keep changing the road names on me so I’ve given up and I couldn’t possibly remember what road I live on.” ( let’s be honest he said a few choice words in between , but you get the idea)

Rebecca graciously thanked the gentleman and headed outside to the van waving a piece of paper at Erin as she crossed the street.

After getting settled into the van Rebecca looks out the window to see her new friend leaving the store,  he then proceeds to get into a tractor that is parked on the side of the road.

Being patient Rebecca waits for the tractor ( slow moving vehicle sign attached) to pull out. It’s then that they realize their new friend is heading home and they happily accept the wave of his arm to “Follow”.

Yes, it was an early morning.

Yes, even professional organizers don’t get ALL the details ALL the time.

Yes, Rebecca and Erin were in a hurry.

But, it’s moments like this…moments when our team is in the right place at the right time. When they meet extraordinary people and smile and say

“Thanks” for the reminder to slow down and enjoy the ride!

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p.s Mrs.P was a very happy client by the end of the day!

 

Busy families of 2018 are constantly trying to get on top of all that “busy-ness” that continually crowds our head space.

There’s seems to be struggles with Who’s taking the kids where, Why aren’t the household chores split 50/50, When does it all stop?

I don’t have an answer for those questions. Sorry.

You’ve heard it all before – Life will hit you so hard at different stages. But is there anything out there that can lessen the blow?

Yes, there is. I’ve been organizing lives for a long time and I can tell you that being organized, prepared and managing your time really DOES help.

I know, you’re saying you’ve heard it all before. But, you still struggle and THAT’S not ok!

Look… do you have a mechanic look at your car when it’s broke? Do you go to a dentist when there’s something a miss in your mouth?

Can I ask you something then???

WHY?

Why don’t you ask for help to get organized, prepared and nail down your time management skills?

Calander

I don’t know why?

Because when something isn’t working in my life I take it to someone who knows their stuff. End of story.

The team at Just In Time Solutions, can be as hard core or as gentle as you need them to be. But they’re going to get the job done and they’re going to teach you a few things along the way.

We are all moms, we ALL have been through that thought process ” I can’t keep doing this, I’m not going to make it”

I’m here to tell you today….YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE! You are doing an incredible job treading water. You are running a household, going in ten different directions and you are STILL going to MAKE IT!

But, if you’d let us….we’d like to help so that you can take that breather you’re hoping for.

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